food for thought.

just 2 days ago, i was at grandma's place when i overheard my 15 year old cousin accusing and talking back to her mother very rudely. and the mother looking helpless after a few moments of arguing with the cousin.

somehow i saw the hurt and pain in my jiu mu's eyes.

that scene somehow 'woke' me up instantly.

6 years ago and even now sometimes, i talk back rudely to mother, giving her the least patient i've got.

it is only when you've grown up, seeing what your juniors does, like a reflection of your younger days, then that you realise this was what you were doing when you were at that age.

the incident really made me very guilty of the past, when you know, younger days, rebellious and rude and those shits.

hopefully one thing i can learn this new year is to be more respectful and patient to the parents.

sometimes,i have very low tolerance towards daddy's weaknesses and start picking an argument or fight with him but he is always attentive to our needs and all.

just this morning, he told me he bought me my newspaper because he knows i'll be bored to death at home.

i think arguments in the family is very common but at the end of the day, everyone should reconcile and be as a happy family again.

i don't understand why some famiiles have such huge grudges that they can take so many years or even never to be back to a happy family. i think its pretty much of forget and forgive.

simple theory;

1) you fight with your good friend or bf/gf, you reconcile very fast.

and the thing is, you're not blood related with them.

2) then, you had a fight with your parents, it takes forever to reconcile.

and the thing is, you're blood related with them.

WHY???

isn't this like an insult or something? i don't know but whenever i hear people saying they don't click with their parents and siblings, i've got lotsa ?????? why such things happen.

probably i come in a family that are very forgiving and all that i don't understand about other families.

BUT, look back at the simple theory. friends and partners also different characteristics, also will disagree what... why can't family reconcile like how the way they do with their friends?

it'll be a very good thing if a family gets along happily right? lesser problems, more happiness.

;)

i have very strong opinion on this is because firstly, i love my parents and the only sibling very much and no matter how shitty our flaws are or how much we argued, the happiness of spending time with family is the best and no money can buy that.

secondly because i've seen people close to me having such issues and find it very suffocating to live life this way with family members.

sometimes, i wished i can do something or say something influential enough to let them know nothing is hard to resolve or compromise and all, especially within a family.

i think its quite hard for a family to have outings nowadays since everyone has their own stuffs to do but i think once in a while to have a family gathering would be really fun considering that you will get closer with them ma.

us on smelly's 13th birthday, 2 years ago.

i think i am sounding very like some family bond ambassador like that, but well.

the goodness of happy family! really.

but of course, if ever one day any of the family members does any wrongdoings that is really hard to forgive, it will be another issue. but small arguments should be easier right?